31 Amazing Bat Mitzvah Gift Ideas
First things first for the uninitiated — “bar mitzvah” and “bat mitzvah” are the same … but different. Bar mitzvah means “son of the commandments.” Bat mitzvah means “daughter of the commandments.”
It’s just one letter of difference (in both Hebrew and English) but it’s critical, and not just because one is for boys and the other for girls.
The Bat Mitzvah is a recent creation. Orthodox Jews, along with some Conservative jews, reject the notion that a girl or woman can read the Torah or participate in traditional Jewish prayer rituals.
However, most Conservative and all Reform or Reconstructionist Jewish congregations favor equal footing for men and women, boys and girls, in the practice of Jewish tradition. Both women and men can become rabbis or cantors and lead prayers; boys become “bar mitzvah,” girls become “bat mitzvah.”
So girls get to have all the fun too — dressing up in celebratory outfits, wearing a kippah and shawl, reading aloud to an appreciative and proud audience a selection from a lauded text written in an ancient and beautiful language, leading a congregation in song and prayer, facing down giving a speech in front of many congregants, hugging and kissing an endless procession of bubbes and aunties, and then blissfully being liberated to party with her shul friends.
Bar and bat mitzvahs are usually 13 years of age. Among historic Jews this was the traditional age of legal marriage, participation in prayer, moral responsibility for actions, and full entry into Jewish civic responsibilities. As such, 13 is sometimes referred to as the age that a Jewish boy “becomes a man” and that a Jewish girl “becomes a woman.” The bar or bat mitzvah ceremony represents this passage into adulthood.
Today, we only say that with our tongues planted firmly in our cheeks. No liberal society regards a 13-year-old girl as a woman anymore. She still has a lot of growing up to do … and a lot of playfulness left in her. Both are good things.
Keep that in mind when shopping for the perfect gift for the bat mitzvah in your life. She’ll have plenty of years to enjoy boring gifts like cookware and fountain pens. The woman can wait. Let her be a girl for a little longer, and shop accordingly!
Here are 31 amazing bat mitzvah gift ideas …
1- EFYTAL 13th Birthday Sterling Silver Necklace
Cute, simple, and classic, this sterling silver necklace from EFYTAL commemorates the thirteenth birthday with thirteen tasteful crystals. Silver even has significance in Jewish culture as the traditional material in Jewish currency, the shekel.
The EFYTAL sterling silver necklace is versatile, appropriate for dressing up or dressing down. It will even look good at the ceremony and reception!
2- Tiny Giant Bar Mitzvah Personalized Star of David Engraved Wine Glass
In practice, the bat mitzvah’s wine-drinking days are several years off (legally speaking, at least). However, wine plays a key role in Jewish life and ceremony, even at younger ages.
The kiddush, one of the Hebrew prayers the bat mitzvah will recite at the shabbat ceremony, is actually a blessing over a glass of wine. Jewish children sip kiddush wine from young ages (usually finding it gross, to their parents’ amusement).
This stemless wine glass, engraved with a monogram, the bat mitzvah date, and a Star of David, is actually a perfectly appropriate bat mitzvah gift, even for a 13-year-old.
3- Alex and Ani Womens Bat Mitzvah Bangle
Affordable and adorable, the Alex and Ani Bat Mitzvah Bangle makes the perfect addition to the collection of a girl who loves charm bracelets.
Made in the US, it features a unique, scripted “Bat Mitzvah” charm decorated with Stars of David. The birthday girl can mix and match her other charms with this bracelet as well.
4- Amberetech Cute Woollike Knitted CAT Kitty Ears Crochet Hat
Forget the pomp and ceremony and ancient tradition of the bat mitzvah for a moment—let’s remember that this is a 13-year-old girl who probably feels unbearably stuffy in a formal dress and grandma’s pearls.
Kitty-ears beanies are all the rage. The bat mitzvah can throw this sassy crocheted hat on at the reception party, forget for a moment that she is an adult in the eyes of Adonai (God), and be a kid again. A kid with kitty cat ears on her hat is especially fun for winter bat mitzvahs.
5- CellElection 20 Pack Hair Scrunchies
Another classic of the preteen and teen years, scrunchies give bat mitzvahs with long hair a quick, easy, and fun way to dress up their locks.
Scrunchies are like compliments—you can never have too many. This affordable 20-pack by CellElection comes with ten velvet scrunchies and ten chiffon scrunchies.
6- Runlong Hair Chalk Comb Temporary Hair Color Dye for Teen Girls
Jewish, gentile, or anything in between, fun hair colors are big right now. Middle and high schools are a technicolor rainbow of coiffure creativity. 13-year-olds change their mind about their hair color often, however, so it helps to have a hair-color solution that is temporary … and inexpensive.
This ingenious collection of non-toxic hair-chalk combs allows the bat mitzvah to play with different hair colors or even experiment with multicolor ‘dos … and then wash it out with ordinary shampoo when she is ready for a change.
7 – Alef Bet by Paula Shema Bracelet
This gorgeous sterling silver bracelet from Alef Bet by Paula is a subtle expression of Jewish identity. The pendant, surrounded by cubic zirconia gemstones, features the Hebrew text of the Shema, the ancient prayer found in the Biblical book of Deuteronomy by which the Israelites declare their identity and their faith in God.
A staple of Jewish tradition, the words of the Shema translate to “Hear, O Israel, the Lord is our God, the Lord is One.”
8- The Teen Girl’s Survival Guide by Lucie Hemmen PhD
In later years, we often talk about the teen years as though they are “the best years of our lives.” But as any teen can tell you, being a teenager is hard — the hormones, the emotions, the changes in the body, the high school social politics, the desire to control their own lives and identity. Add the unreasonable pressures of our social media era, and it’s no wonder teenage girls face an epidemic of clinical anxiety.
Psychologist and author Lucie Hemmen offers to your favorite teenager a frank, fun, and compassionate assessment of what it means to be a 21st-century teen girl — the pressures, stressors, and triggers they face; how to manage them; how to be a true friend, prepare for womanhood, and discover a sense of self at a time when a girl might feel that everyone, even her own body, is against her.
9- BONAOK Wireless Bluetooth Karaoke Microphone
With a bluetooth karaoke microphone, the party never has to stop, even when the bat mitzvah reception ends. This blingy microphone from BONAOK either connects by USB or pairs by bluetooth to your computer or mobile device. From there, you can run any karaoke app or play an MP3, adjust volume levels, and sing along with your own voice mixed into built-in speakers.
Powered by a rechargeable lithium battery, the BONAOK Bluetooth Karaoke Microphone is portable, allowing the bat mitzvah to take the karaoke party with her wherever she goes.
10- Yoseng Mermaid Makeup Brush Set
Let the bat mitzvah flex her inner mermaid with this ten-piece brush set by Yoseng. Each makeup brush features a rainbow-colored handle shaped like an elegantly-scaled finned mermaid tail.
This makeup brush set is made from durable, non-toxic materials and features a 100% money-back guarantee from Yoseng.
11- Jenia Feather Leather Cuff Bracelet
Jenia outfits this pink leather cuff bracelet with a series of adorable charms, including clear beads, a gold feather, braids, and jewels. The perfect all-purpose girl’s gift for any age; it goes with anything.
12- ZOKEA Night Light 3D Lamp 7 Colors
Forget Jewish adulthood—everyone needs a nightlight sometimes, and this 7-color, teddy-bear-shaped 3D night light is a creative spin on the theme. With a heart in its lap, this teddy bear makes an adorable addition to any preteen or teen girl’s bedroom.
Controlled by a membrane-switch remote control, the ZOKEA night light toggles between seven colors, either in one-color mode or rotating colors, with adjustable brightness and a shut-off timer.
13- BAE Icons Gift Wrapped Horse Bracelet
For the bat mitzvah who loves horses, BAE Icons makes the perfect bracelet, available in three colors and two sizes. The bracelet features a horse charm, two braids, the word “Horses,” and an “infinite-love” charm.
Cute and inexpensive, it arrives in an adorable pink pillowcase and comes with a 30-day satisfaction guarantee from BAE Icons.
14- Kemy’s Girls Stripe Tween Purses Set Small Crossbody Purse for Teen Girls
Few things are more fun for teen girls than growing their purse collection. This cute collection of cross-body purses by Kemy’s offers fashion and function, with compact but spacious designs and quality canvas or nylon construction.
The adjustable strap can turn it into a shoulder purse. Either way, it’s perfect for carrying essentials to and from school, shopping, or traveling.
15- Alef Bet by Paula Jewish Star and Heart Necklace
This contemporary Judaic jewelry combines the old with the new—Stars of David inset into a heart-shaped pendant. Alef Bet by Paula is a family business, with mother and daughter crafting sterling silver Judaic jewelry that make ideal Bat Mitzvah gifts.
16- sedmart Tree of Life Pendant Amethyst Rose Crystal Necklace
This sedsmart Tree of Life pendant features multicolored gemstones in many configurations, each color representing a different chakra. The crystals form the leaves of the Tree of Life while beautifully turned wire creates branches, trunk, and roots, all set into a pendant on a 31” chain.
The ancient Tree of Life image is found in Kabbalah Judaic mysticism as well as in Hinduism and Tantric Buddhism, where it is a representation of different emanations of God.
East meets West in this unique and beautiful pendant, allowing the bat mitzvah to express a worldly Jewish identity and perfect if she and her family practice crystal healing.
17- Art Therapy Coloring Teen Coloring Books For Girls: Vol 1
Most of us stop coloring after early childhood, but doctors recognize the therapeutic power of creative coloring. “Art therapy” is common in mental health and wellness practice, and the challenging, confusing teen years require all the mental health and wellness a girl can muster.
Give an artsy bat mitzvah this grown-up coloring book from Art Therapy. With it, she can switch off the TV and social media, switch off the noise in her brain, and focus on the satisfying act of making a beautiful picture even more beautiful.
18- Dear Ava Gifts for Girls Necklace
This low-profile necklace, available plated in gold or rose gold, features two linked asymmetrical circles, a sleek modern look for your favorite bat mitzvah teen. It comes with an 18-inch chain with a two-inch extender, fitting any woman or girl closely without too much dangle. A lobster claw clasp keeps it secure.
Dear Ava ships the necklace in attractive, gift-wrap-ready packaging.
19- Alef Bet by Paula Tiny Hebrew Chai Letter Necklace
This classic bit of wearable Judaica makes a subtle but crucial point. A de facto motto of the Jewish community, the Hebrew word “chai” translates to “life.” It is the root word of the classic Hebrew toast “L’chaim!” which translates as “To life!”
A perfect sentiment for a proud Jewish girl to wear around her neck.
20- Meydalle Handmade Hebrew “Anything is Possible” Necklace
For the bat mitzvah without limits, this handmade necklace by Meydalle features the perfect Hebrew benediction — “Hakol efshari,” which translates to “Anything is possible.” The Hebrew letters are engraved vertically into gold-plated brass, dangling from a gold-filled 17.7-inch chain. The necklace comes in a box ready to gift-wrap.
21- Tonnier Watches White Resin Super Soft Band Student Watches for Teenagers
Not every watch works with a teenage girl’s aesthetic, but the Tonnier soft band watch for teenagers works perfectly. The soft white rubber band is as pleasingly feminine as it is comfortable.
The watch face displays an astronomical nebula, a colorful and inspiring expression of a teenage girl’s fascination with science and the natural world, and a reminder of the limitless nature of imagination. The ideal bat mitzvah gift.
22- Stagiant Makeup Bag Portable Travel Makeup Train Case
Indulge the bat mitzvah’s burgeoning wanderlust and help her keep looking her best with this cute traveling makeup case by Stagiant. This leather “train case” zipper makeup organizer comes in rose gold, marble, or purple, with a unicorn design and just the right amount of storage space for weekends with friends or long trips abroad.
The interior of the case has space for up to six brushes and a variety of cosmetics, making it the ideal gift for a worldly bat mitzvah.
23. Tracy Tayan Designs Bat Mitzvah Necklace with Date and Birthstone
This sterling silver necklace by Tracy Tayan Designs is perfect for any bat mitzvah and easy to customize. The sterling silver chain features three charms: a hammered sterling silver disk featuring a Star of David and the bat mitzvah’s inscribed name; a hand-stamped “army dog tag” commemorating the date of the ceremony; and the bat mitzvah’s birthstone.
The necklace is available in several lengths, with a choice of clasp. This sassy, edgy, meaningful commemoration of the rite of passage is one that the bat mitzvah will be proud to wear for years, an upscale expression of her Jewish heritage and identity.
24- EFYTAL Tiny Star of David Necklace with Personalized Hebrew Initial and Birth Month Charm
A slightly different spin on the commemorative bat mitzvah charm necklace, this gold-filled example features a birthstone charm and a Star of David, but also a disk featuring the first Hebrew letter in the bat mitzvah’s Hebrew name.
Every bar or bat mitzvah gets assigned a Hebrew name, even if they didn’t have one at birth. The name often carries a deep, personal meaning.
Ask the parents for the bat mitzvah girl’s Hebrew name and its first Hebrew letter to create this great gift for bat mitzvahs who take pride in their Hebrew name.
Buy the EFYTAL Tiny Star of David Necklace with Personalized Hebrew Initial and Birth Month Charm on Amazon Here.
25- I IHAYNER Girls Bowknot Cute Leather Backpack
A girl is never too old (or too young) for a bow on her backpack-purse. This leather backpack by IHAYNER features adjustable straps and both large and small zipper pockets.
Available in six bold colors with brass accents, the leather bowknot adds a sassy touch of femininity to this spacious, versatile purse. The perfect size for an iPad or tablet, books, magazines, cosmetics, and other essentials.
26- YFN Initial Pendant Necklace Earrings in Sterling Silver with Cubic Zirconial 26 Letter Alphabet Jewelry
This monogrammed necklace from YFN is a great gift for bling-loving bat mitzvahs. The chain is 100% nickel-free 925 sterling silver.
Choose the first letter of the bat mitzvah’s name, encrusted in cubic zirconia gemstones, which the bat mitzvah can wear around her neck as a pendant, a tasteful and attractive expression of her pride and personality.
Buy the YFN Initial Pendant Necklace Earrings in Sterling Silver with Cubic Zirconial 26 Letter Alphabet Jewelry on Amazon Here.
27 – Alef Bet by Paula Jewish Star Evil Eye Bracelet in Silver
Combining spiritual traditions, this sterling silver bracelet features the protective Jewish Star of David, inset with the sign of an eye to ward off the evil eye and watch over your beloved bat mitzvah. This edgy, cross-cultural take on Judaica is small and beautifully rendered, perfect for all occasions.
28- BARBARI Jewelry Red Silver Plated Hamsa Bracelet
This understated, attractive piece by BARBARI features a sterling silver representation of the Hamsa hand, a sacred representation of the Hand of God in many faiths, including Judaism. Set into a red cloth bracelet, the Hamsa charm features an inset turquoise stone.
29- Wild Cabbage “It Only Took 13 Years to be this Awesome” LLama Journal and Sketchbook Gift for 13 Year Old Girls
Artsy bat mitzvahs will love this attractive, affordable sketchbook by Wild Cabbage, featuring a sentiment close to any bat mitzvah’s heart: “It only took 13 years to be this awesome!” The fun cover design also features llamas, dragonflies, and hearts. Perfect for a journal or a sketchbook.
Buy the Wild Cabbage “It Only Took 13 Years to be this Awesome” LLama Journal and Sketchbook Gift for 13 Year Old Girls on Amazon Here.
30- Rnehon LED Bluetooth Speaker Night Light Portable
For today’s teenager, a Bluetooth-enabled speaker is a necessity and this Rnehon model doubles as an LED nightlight with an appealing desktop ring design. Its jewel-faceted base comes in pink, turquoise, and white.
As a bluetooth speaker, the Rnehon unit allows the bat mitzvah to pair her computer and mobile devices to listen to music and audio content with wireless freedom. As a nightlight, the Rnehon unit offers a soft, soothing glow, creating the perfect calm emotional ambiance for her private bedroom space.
31- WHITE COTTON CARDS Bat Mitzvah Photo Album
Bat mitzvah ceremonies are part ancient religious service, and (more important to many 13-year-olds) part awesome birthday party. Whether the family hires professional photographers or just snaps cell phone memories, gift the bat mitzvah with the perfect vehicle to store and treasure those memories.
This bat mitzvah-themed photo album by WHITE COTTON CARDS comes in a gift-wrapped box and a “princess tiara” cover image. About 60 photos can be stored in it—the bat mitzvah’s favorite memories of the ceremony and party.
Worth noting, there is actually a more traditional bat mitzvah gift than any of these—money. Jewish preteens look forward to their bar or bat mitzvahs for the cash gifts as much as for the party. Even small checks can add up to big money for a teenager, especially when those small checks come from hundreds of friends and family members.
You won’t face accusations of thoughtlessness or lazy gift-giving if you give the bat mitzvah a check or prepaid debit card as your gift for the special day. It’s actually appropriate and even expected.
If you do want to give the bat mitzvah something from the above list, something a little more thoughtful, it might even be polite to include a check or gift card as well, even a small one. Don’t break the bank, but do look at plenty of affordable options on the above list. Remember, 13-year-olds still outgrow things. You usually aren’t gifting for the long haul.
Thoughtfulness still counts. A table full of gift-wrapped boxes is still a mainstay of most bat mitzvahs. Add a thoughtful gift to the pile of checks, and you will make the bat mitzvah’s special day even brighter.