The fourth anniversary is a big deal. Not that we would ever down-talk any anniversary or scoff at an opportunity to celebrate … but consider the implications of four years of marriage.
A couple has survived the passionate and volatile early relationship, where every kiss is fire, every argument a potential deal-breaker. That hot, volcanic infatuation has matured into a steady flame you can bake bread over. By now the couple has let their guard down and showed each other who they really are. They have made a home together, which means countless bills paid and toilets plunged. If children have made their debut, peace and privacy may seem like a distant memory.
And at the end of the day, they still kiss every morning and snuggle every night with “I love you” on their lips.
A reason to celebrate, indeed.
So take some time to pick a meaningful gift for your spouse of four years, or for the cute couple in your life that you just know is going to make it, who restores your faith in love.
Anniversaries have traditional themes and motifs associated with them. (Think of Elizabeth II’s Diamond Jubilee celebrating 60 years as queen.) As you shop, consider the following:
- The 4th Anniversary gemstone is Blue Topaz.
- The 4th Anniversary color is blue.
- The 4th Anniversary flower is geranium.
- In the US, the traditional 4th Anniversary gift is flowers or fruit, symbolizing the “blossoming” or “fruit-bearing” of your love.
- In the UK, the traditional 4th Anniversary gift is linen or silk.
Here are some ideas to get you started—33 amazing 4th-anniversary gift ideas for him and her.
1- Bella Busta 4 Years Anniversary Traditional Fruit Gift
This glass piece from Bella Busta adheres to the “fruitful” tradition of the 4th-anniversary gift in a beautiful crystal apple with heartwarming engraved messages. This traditional glass fruit gift can be used as a paperweight or decoration on display shelves, desks, kitchen table, bathroom counter, or anywhere that it will remind the couple of their four years of love!
Arriving in recycled paper packaging, the Bella Busta fruit gift is made from solid, high-quality crystal, hefty enough not to break easily.
2- Broad Bay 4th Personalized 4 Year Anniversary Wedding Gift for Wife Husband
A personalized decoration adds positive energy to the home, even if it gets replaced next year with a 5th anniversary marker.
This plaque by Broad Bay comes inscribed with the happy couples’ name, enhanced by red heart decorations, as well as an accounting of each joyous month, day, hour, and minute of those four years, with a promise of “forever more” at the end.
3- Chudoff Personalized 4th Linen Anniversary Gift for Him or Her
The UK-based linen theme for a 4th anniversary shows beautifully in the simplicity and elegance of the Chudoff Personalized Linen print for the lucky couple.
The neutral-toned framed linen is inscribed with the couples’ names in flowing calligraphy, along with the ever-popular accounting of the units of time that created their four wonderful years.
The frame is available in two contemporary shades of gray that expose the attractive wood grains.
4- LifeSong Milestones 4th Anniversary Picture Frame
Happy 4th-anniversary sentiments deserve a memorable photo of when it all began, and the Lifesong Milestones 4th Anniversary Picture Frame allows you to include just that. By making an anniversary picture frame a tradition, the couple can keep track of how they age and grow into the relationship. What a glorious retrospective to leave behind for your children!
Available in three different sizes, this wooden picture frame is inscribed with the units of time within four years, along with the romantic sentiment “I wish I could have met you sooner so I could have loved you longer.”
5- Anniversary Gifts 4th Anniversary Hip Flask For Him
Sometimes it’s difficult to find the right gift for a man’s 4th anniversary, but this elegant and simple 4th Anniversary Hip Flask can be the right choice for him!
Featuring attractive, masculine stainless steel and wood tones, the inscription on this six-ounce flask will tug at his emotional heartstrings and let him know how much you care: “I Still Love You As Much as the Day We Met.”
And don’t forget the old saying: “The couple that sneaks liquor into the movie theater together … stays together!”
6- Pirantin 4th Anniversary “You are My Rock” Gift
Simple but elegant, this highly polished metal “rock” not only looks beautiful but expresses the perfect sentiment. With its form molded to look like an unshaped, ocean-washed stone, the 7-ounce rock can function as a paper weight or decorative object for your shelves, and is inscribed with the pithy but meaningful inscription “You Are My Rock.” Anyone who has been through four years of ups and downs, growing in love, can relate. The gift comes with a charming short story that describes the original rock yours is based on.
7- 4 Year Anniversary Metal Date Night Dice
Nothing kills the romance of date night like trying to figure out what new things you can do. Yet by the fourth year of marriage, it can be hard to avoid feeling that repetitiveness has sunk into your date nights and the temptation mounts to just stop trying.
The Anniversary Gifts 4-year Metal Date Night Dice take the pressure off both partners by committing the night’s activities to chance. Your date night destination is in the hands of Lady Luck, a sexy and fun way to pin your plans on the roll of the dice … which never hurts date night either!
8- Shanley Ruslove 4 Wonderful Years: Lined Journal / Notebook
For the amateur or aspiring diarist in the relationship, Shanley Ruslove offers this lovebird-themed lined notebook. Beautifully illustrated front and back with lovebirds on a robin’s egg blue background, this notebook is the right place to share your thoughts and dreams with and for each other.
This journal has the advantage of being affordable and also consumable—once it is filled up, the recipient will be ready for another one on the next anniversary!
9- Pirantin EST 2016 4th Anniversary Sign Mr & Mrs
Pirantin’s “Established 2016” anniversary sign is pegged as a 2nd anniversary gift, dating it to 2018, but works perfectly for a 4th Anniversary. The beautiful, neutral-toned stain on the solid beech wood plaque makes for perfect placement throughout your home. And the fun, laser-engraved inscription makes a somewhat cheeky reference to a year of “establishment” as if marriage were a business — something to chuckle over!
10- A.Patience Happy 4th Anniversary Mug
You can never have too many coffee mugs. Ask anyone who has needed their morning coffee only to discover the mugs to all be dirty. Stave off that horror and mark the occasion of the 4th anniversary with this screen-printed mug for him.
Available in 11-ounce and 15-ounce sizes, the A.Patience Happy 4th Anniversary Mug features a sweet, simple poem: “I loved you then, I love you still, Always Have, Always Will.”
11- Wedding Anniversary “Epic Husband Since 2016” PopSockets Grip and Stand for Phones and Tablets
Scoff at the PopSockets fad if you wish, but they are super useful, both to help you grip the phone and to prop it up on the counter, desk, or airplane tray table to watch videos, browse the web, or even work from their phone.
PopSockets are fairly disposable, so why not give your husband the opportunity to celebrate four happy years every time he pops it out.
Buy the Wedding Anniversary “Epic Husband Since 2016” PopSockets Grip and Stand for Phones and Tablets on Amazon Here.
12- Aunyamanee London Blue Topaz Gemstone Silver Ring
The official gemstone of the 4th Anniversary, blue topaz in this luxurious ring is both affordable and attractive. Give your wife the gift of bling with this commemorative and eye-catching ring to add some sparkle and excitement to special occasions. The band is made of silver and available in multiple sizes.
13- TexereSilk Women’s Luxury Long Silk Bathrobe
As well as being the fabric of kings and queens, silk is the traditional symbol of the 4th wedding anniversary in the UK. Celebrate that tradition with this luxurious TexereSilk 100% silk bathrobe for her. Available in four colors with a two-toned collar, it’s a regal and sexy way to outfit your queen for comfort.
14- BOLDLOFT Grow Old with You His & Hers Drinking Glasses
Perfect for alcoholic and non-alcoholic drinks alike, this matching pair of beverage tumblers depicts a sweet scene in stick figure—on one side, a young couple planting a sapling; on the other side, the same couple in their old age, picking apples from that now blossoming tree.
While not specifically geared to a fourth anniversary, the gift hearkens to the fruit theme of 4th anniversaries as well as acknowledges that a marriage four years running still has a lot of joy left in its future.
15- KATE POSH 4 Years Wedding Anniversary, 4 Years of Marriage, 4 Years Together, Traditional Fruit Gift
Here’s another non-perishable application of the “fruit” theme for glass lovers. Like other gifts on this list, this framed decoration breaks down the units of time that make up four years. In a nice touch, however, each subunit of time includes a benediction — “1461 Days of Loyalty,” “2,103,840 Minutes of Laughter,” etc.
The benedictions are inscribed on apples dangling from a tree alongside a fruit basket that bears the cheerful inscription “Four Years Down, Forever to Go.”
Buy the KATE POSH 4 Years Wedding Anniversary, 4 Years of Marriage, 4 Years Together, Traditional Fruit Gift on Amazon Here.
16- Rose Bear Rose Teddy Bear
Give the gift of flowers in a surprising way on your Flower Anniversary with the Rose Bear, a handmade, visually-impressive teddy bear made from dozens and dozens of synthetic rose blossoms. As cuddly as it is attractive, this is the perfect anniversary gift to bring out a smile in your loved one.
It arrives in gift-ready packaging with a 100% money-back guarantee on the 10-inch decorative toy.
17- Willow Tree Anniversary Sculpted Hand-Painted Figure
More earthy than blingy, this beautiful minimalist resin sculpture, hand-painted and 6.5 inches tall, depicts two modestly-dressed lovers in poses of tenderness, a perfect representation of lived-in, companionate love.
One of the poses is titled “Anniversary,” but all the poses (“Around You,” “Promise,” “Together,” “You And Me”) are appropriate as a 4th anniversary gift. Pick the one that speaks to your heart.
18- BOLDLOFT Grow Old with You His and Hers Pillowcases
Remember the his-and-hers drink tumblers with that lovely stick-figure apple tree illustration? BOLDLOFT presents the same image in his-and-hers pillowcase sets.
Every time you lay down to sleep next to your spouse, these pillowcases will remind you of the commitment to grow old and share life together, bearing the fruit of love throughout your relationship.
19- Teslyar Natural Walnut Wood Phone Docking Station
This cool “gift for him” is designed to help purse-deprived men have one place to keep their essentials organized, rather than scattering phone, sun glasses, loose change, and watch here and there throughout the house.
Made of real walnut and stained in masculine deep wood tones, the Teslyar Wood Phone Docking Station features not only a shelf for the smartphone, but hooks for keys and a watch, a slot for the wallet, and places for change and other pocket detritus. Beautiful and useful … just like a good husband.
20- T-HAOHUA Anniversary Photo Album Scrapbook
Fun fact — a large-enough solar flare could wipe every hard drive and server on the planet, i.e. goodbye Instagram! Seen in that perspective, there’s still a place for scrapbooks in preserving memories for posterity.
Anniversary scrapbooks are more of a “for her” gift … but why rule it out for men who love keepsakes as well? Bound in yarn with cool leather trip and gold accents, the inscription on the T-HAOHUA Anniversary Photo Album Scrapbook says it all: “Our Adventure Book.” A good marriage is an adventure, and a scrapbook records that adventure for future generations.
21- FREDERICK JAMES Anniversary Gifts for Men Engraved ‘To my Husband’ Pocket Watch
How many husbands have the bragging rights that come from being able to whip out a pocket watch? Especially one full of sweet and devoted sentiments from his spouse?
A pocket watch is a glorious anachronism, definitely something he wouldn’t think to buy for himself unless he is really into steampunk … and even then, why not augment his collection of pocket watches with the classic “Loved You Then/Love You Still” anniversary sentiment?
Buy the FREDERICK JAMES Anniversary Gifts for Men Engraved ‘To my Husband’ Pocket Watch on Amazon Here.
22- Pure by Rachelle Parker Lavender Geranium Spa Gift Basket
Give her the gift of beauty with this spa gift basket from Pure by Rachelle Parker. Note the lavender-geranium theme, with geraniums the official flower of the 4th Anniversary.
Not only will she love the products (soap, bath gel, body butter, bath salts, and more) but you’ll get good-husband points for explaining the meaning behind the ingredients and how they relate to your special day.
23- Brass Honcho for Men Personalized Pocket Knife
Every husband loves a beautiful pocket knife. It’s a useful, manly, attractive present. Brass Honcho’s customizable pocket knife can be ordered personalized with your hubby’s name on it and with “Happy 4th Anniversary” custom-inscribed on the beautiful walnut, cherry, or sanded pine carrying case.
The 2.75-inch folding blade is made from high-quality 440 stainless steel. Brass Honcho is a veteran-operated family business.
24- Pointed Designs Men’s Tie Set
A necktie is a classic men’s gift for any occasion. The five versatile dress ties in this collection are a no brainer if your man needs to make an impression in high-powered meetings.
Year 4 is when many couples start to think about their upward mobility. This gift helps your husband dress for the job he wants, not the job he has.
The set also comes with two metal tie bars, making it an easy one-and-done solution to upgrade your husband’s wardrobe.
25- K&K Personalized Wooden Watch for Men
Perfect for outdoorsy husbands, this rustic wristwatch makes an impression with a leather strap, bronze hardware, and a wood clock face.
The K&K Personalized Wooden Watch comes with a variety of inscriptions. For an anniversary gift, consider the following inscriptions: “Loved you then/Love you still”; “I love you more and more with each passing day”; “Thank you for walking by my side today and always”; or a custom missive.
26- awofer Custom Engraving Mens Wallet
This soft leather wallet from awofer features one of the more lovely marriage sentiments currently finding its way onto product inscriptions: “I choose you and I’ll choose you, over and over. Without pause, without a doubt, in a heartbeat. I’ll keep choosing you.” It ends with a “love” infinity symbol.
A highly functional wallet, the awofer model includes two ID sleeves, two cash pockets, and space for eight credit cards.
27- Pandora Jewelry Pavé and Heart Anniversary Charm in Sterling Silver
Encrusted with dazzling cubic zirconia stones, this bracelet charm makes a brilliant gift for a wife who loves bling. The Pandora charm is made from sterling silver, the halo encapsulating a heart-shaped gap.
Pandora Jewelry is committed to responsible sourcing and manufacturing of its materials and jewelry products.
28- Matashi 24K Gold Plated Happy Anniversary Double Heart Cake Topper
This double-heart cake ornament is a fitting commemoration for a marriage — two hearts plated in 24-karat gold, overlapping like married lives overlap, decorated by smaller dangling gemstone hearts — separate hearts, unified in love.
If you have a spectacular anniversary cake in the works, make it extra special with this sentiment perched on top.
29- XYUT Scented Candles Gift Sets
An eight-piece aromatherapy candle set makes a great anniversary gift for your wife or possibly your husband if he likes candles and soothing scents. The aromas produced by these candles come from essential oils, with a selection of bergamot, jasmine, lavender, lemon, Mediterranean fig, rose, and vanilla.
The candles are made from natural soy wax, the wicks pure cotton. Each one will burn for 18-20 hours continually.
30- The Only Gift Worth Giving Anniversary Surprise Box
Want to knock it out of the park with the wife for the 4th anniversary? This gift box covers many bases: Candles, sterling silver heart-shaped necklace, leather-bound journal/scrapbook inscribed with the words “Our Adventures” Add to that a sack of fragrant dried rose petals, on message for the flower theme of a 4th anniversary.
This box, from The Only Gift Worth Giving, is the closest you will find to a “done-for-you” 4th anniversary gift.
31- Just Life Gifts for Women, Preserved Flowers
Flowers make a fantastic anniversary gift, especially a fourth anniversary gift, but they have the disadvantage of being perishable. The ephemeral nature of flowers is part of their charm, but if you want a floral gift that lasts, Just Life offers this unique presentation of preserved roses.
Tucked into a sumptuous leather case marked with a crown for your Queen, these roses are preserved with a unique process known as an “eternal flower.” What wife wouldn’t love an “eternal flower?”
32- Sinvitron Gold Dipped Rose, Sinvitron Long Stem 24k Gold Dipped Real Rose
Another way to prolong the life of a delicate rose is to dip it in gold. In this case, the stem of a real rose is dipped in 24 karat gold, while the petals and leaves get preserved in a non-toxic natural resin that allows you to see the fibers of the original plant.
Flowers are a traditional 4th-anniversary gift. Why not take it up a notch by giving your wife something opulent, beautiful, meaningful, and lasting?
33- BlackTea Enchanted Rose
If your wife is a fan of Disney movies, this product from BlackTea will make her entire year. You get to keep the 4th-anniversary theme of flowers, and gift her with an iconic image from the classic Disney animated (and now live-action) film version of Beauty and the Beast.
Modeled after the Beast’s enchanted rose, this beautiful decoration consists of a nylon rose encased in glass, illuminated by string lights that run on AA batteries.
The right choice of gift honors the couples’ commitment, example, and gratitude at having partnered with the love of their lives. Hopefully, these gift ideas provide some inspiration for the perfect, on-theme gift to celebrate a flower/fruit/silk/linen/geranium/blue topaz anniversary.
Keep in mind, however, that none of these traditions are hard-and-fast rules. If your spouse hates geraniums or the color blue, skip it. If the couple likes to chart its own path, throw out the rulebook.
Take into account what is unique about your spouse or the couple in question. Consider a gift adjacent to a favorite hobby of the recipient, or themed to one of the recipient’s favorite TV shows, musicians, or pastimes.
Knowing and following the traditions, however, marks the occasion and shows that you have put some thought into how you mark time as a couple. As always, a gift from the heart never disappoints.